2/10/08 Love for love itself!

I have to say, if you talk long enough with a gay person, the conversation inevitably turns to matters of the heart, i.e. love and relationships. And when you talk about gay relationships monogamy always comes hand in hand simply because it's a matter of much consternation among gay men and those in relationships.
I don't know when society decided to make relationships monogamous but I think we are biologically programmed to not be monogamous and to spread our seed far and wide. If nature intended us to be like that why go against nature? Why should there just be 1 person for us in this whole wide world of billions of people? That doesn't make sense.
I think too many people buy into the notion of romantic fairytale love like they see in movies and dramas that they wish their life was like that, I think it's selfish to want a person to just love you, it's possessive and obsessive. If we were secure in ourselves why would we need another person to 'complete' us and be our soul mate, if there is such a thing..
I think people will be happier and there would be less breakups and divorces and on the whole the world would be a better place if people just forget about labels like boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, whatever! It doesn't matter, we don't have to own someone for them to love us and vice versa. We should just love for love itself, if you like the person, whether it be for company, for sex, for love, anything, just enjoy each other and respect each other and experience the best in each other, don't have any expectations and issues and you remove all the drama, problems, friction and I think we will have an even better time loving the people we love. In a purer form and state and we would all be happier and more fulfilled human beings!