Sex and lovemaking..

Sex is just sex without feelings, but when you have sex with someone you have feelings with, it is more fulfilling but also makes you feel more insecure. Because you become more emotionally attached through sex and the sex itself becomes lovemaking.
The word 'love' in lovemaking suggests that love or an emotion akin to love is involved. Yes the connection is better that way but for some reason, I also feel more shy to that person. If I were to have sex with a stranger I feel more uninhibited and less shy or insecure about what that person thinks of me because I don't know that person and if anything unpleasant were to happen I don't even have to see that person again.
However, with someone you care about, you want things to be perfect and that's where the pressure comes. And you may not want to reveal certain sexual preferences for fear the person will judge and think you're a pervert or something. Maybe over time, these things can be revealed, but does it make the sex better, yes probably for you, does it make you less of a person in the eyes of the other if they deem something to be too kinky or dirty? That's the big question..